So, wow. I thought when I sat on the end of my bed and typed shit on this screen and then posted it into cyberspace I was doing no harm. I was just maybe a light sugary accompaniment to your weetbix in the morning. Maybe the honey on your raisin toast or maybe the splenda in your coffee. I was devastated when I received the emails and comments regarding THAT post. Some of you are fucking mean. No offence! but I really do hope you take offence.
My favourite email was one which said 'you are a poisonous caterpillar' but it didn't say caterpillar. instead it used a much more awfully offensive C word that i refuse to utter on my keyboard for fear it will call me a slag. I cried a little. I was too scared to post anything because some lady guilted me for giving such advice* to her daughter and I have always feared mothers more than any other food group. So I have a few things to say....
Firstly, I'm only 23, I don't know shit about anything except Gossip Girl and the new Alexander Wang collection. I only know what I have experienced and that is all I can call upon. I would be horrified if anyone asked me a question (anonymously) and then used what I said as a gospel or bible on how to deal with a situation. I think people who read the little silly nonsense i post, know this. I think they know, it all comes with a grain or more likely a tablespoon of salt. And hey at least you won't suffer from cramps.
*Secondly, I don't give advice in the strictest sense. I'm not an advice columnist and if you are after that sort of heavy shit go read Agony Aunt. I could have easily strung together some tired advice like 'oh the real issue here is that you don't trust him' but that didn't answer the question. The question was HOW do you find out. And the mechanism word there is 'HOW' so i gave this girl a way to do it.
Thirdly, Boys should not live in fear of their girlfriend demanding their passwords. Girls should not live in fear of cheating boyfriends. If I have to do a brief agony aunt interlude: talk. Talk Talk Talk. Every situation is different, there is no cookie cutter solution. To prove this, I have invited some of my brilliant savvy girlfriends to guest post on the very same question. I think all their points are valid. I hope you will be nice to them. No c words please.
Let's get this show on the road again.... shall we hug to make up?